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So I follow an #lds chick on Instagram who went through a divorce about 2 years ago, and her experience is wildly different from what I'm going through. I was thinking about her today as I was mowing and doing other lame but necessary yard work. Sometimes she posts stories where she's upset because she has to do things she "shouldn't have to do" because it's things normally a husband "should" do. Like yard work. Or changing light bulbs, or car stuff, etc. Well peeps, that's some BS. No disrespect towards this woman, I really do feel for her. However I need to rant about this, especially for my youth girls from church. You reading this or skipping it because the caption is "too long"? 😂 I don't care who you are, how old you are, if yous a dude or a chick.
If you purposefully avoid learning how to do something because you hope that eventually someone will be in your life who knows how to do that thing and you hope they'll do it for you... STOP IT! Ain't nobody got time for that kind of thinking. Learn how to do all the things! Be the type of person who can be perfectly happy in your independence, rather than letting yourself exist while waiting for someone else to show up and help you do things. Do I wish I had someone to weed eat and take toilets apart when children stuff toys down them? Fo sho. But let's be real. The person I married didn't even do those things. Don't mistake this for an anti-relationship post haha. I'm very much pro-relationship and marriage and have every intention of finding an eternal companion. (Also this is most definitely not an invitation to set me up with someone. Please don't do that. 😬😂) Especially in Mormon culture you grow up and are expected to get married asap, and sometimes you get married before you even truly know yourself and can appreciate who you are as an individual before entering into a partnership. Trust me on this! 😅 Find yourself first! Let yourself learn all the things instead of assuming you don't have to know how to do something because an eventual partner will be in your life to do it for you. I've been on both sides of this. And let me tell you... The side I'm on now is exponentially better.
Originally Written September 5, 2019